The man is known worldwide and I am sure that thousands (at least) of people would tout him as someone who has had a positive impact on their lives. So for that I salute him, because hey, I’d love to be known for having a positive impact on people too.
However, this morning on FB someone had shared a post of his. The title of which was “New Year = A New Life”….I’m sorry, but what complete and utter bullshit.
Just how exactly is that possible? Suddenly waking up on January the 1st means the shitty slate has been wiped clean? To me, that title, that headline if you will, is totally unrealistic and a tad irresponsible.
In general, my theory is that most people want a quick fix, they are looking for the magic pill, potion or formula to transform their lives….spoiler alert – IT DOESNT EXIST!
I’m sorry but this world we live in of instant fixes and metaphorical band aids pisses me off. So for someone with as much clout as TR to trot out that huge gem of hope to the masses is infuriating to me.
Now I am 100% for people wanting to change their lives, I would happily be head of the cheerleading team for anyone that wants to move forward, to break free from something, to become unstuck. I would love to be the person that could help to facilitate that. But, that change is not as simple as waking up on the first day of the year hoping for the best.
If we really REALLY want those things, then we have to work to get them. That work isn’t always pleasant. It can be draining, emotional and fraught. Digging about under the surface will always uproot something. Whilst that notion is uncomfortable and scary for many, it’s exactly what is needed to get that person on the road to where they need or want to be.
I saw a program not so long ago about our reliance as a nation on painkillers and antibiotics. Go to the Doctors, get a prescription and all is well again. However those pills we all shovel down are very often just covering something up, something bigger that really needs looking at. The pills will make it better for a while, but sooner or later you’ll be making another appointment for that ultimate cover up.
It takes guts, grit and honesty to find your cure, your genuine way forward, it also takes time. There is no perfect day, or perfect start. So why not just start anyway? However, rather than starting with that flashing beacon of “A New Life” dazzling your retinas, start where you are, with what you have available.
It might not be glamorous, elegant, seamless. It definitely won’t be a smooth newly tarmaced pavement, there will be spots where you could trip or stumble, a hole where you might fall down and scrape your knee, and it’ll probably happen when someone else is around to see it so your pride will be hurt as well as your body. It will however be you. The real you, with all your fucked up beautiful imperfections.
It is the start of a new year, but every new day is that blank page you’re waiting for. It doesn’t need to be a certain day on a calendar, and if that’s what you’re waiting on, then you’ll never do anything. You will end up in ‘Groundhog Hell’ year after year of promising yourself so much, and actually doing fuck all.
This is your life racing by, your one precious life, and it’s disappearing in a fog of missed opportunities and failed expectations, because circumstances weren’t perfect enough for you to actually make that change.
So if you are already thinking that on Jan 2nd the sparkle is fading then listen up. You will not get infinite New Years to change things, that illusion needs to be shattered and swept up like shards of glass. If you are ready, and I mean really ready then you will make a change, and keep your own promises. You will get off the sofa and work out, you will quit your shit job that destroys your soul, you’ll pack in the cancer sticks, stop getting smashed every weekend, stop shagging the wrong people…the list of ‘things we want to change’ is endless. The change will always ALWAYS start with you. Not with the chiming of Big Ben, not with the turning of a page in a calendar, and not from any guru.